Why Sexual Incompatibility is a Relationship Deal-Breaker!
Humor and a compatible moral-gage are essential in building a lasting relationship, however, sex is the mortar that holds all the bricks together.
When the inevitable routine and daily grind kick in, if sexual chemistry isn’t there to keep one entertained, the relationship is doomed to fail. No matter how much you respect and value the person you’ve chosen, if you aren’t “hot” for them from the beginning, you aren’t doing either of you any favors.
Sex can keep you stable when all else is failing because it’s what the two of you share that makes it intimate and just between both of you. It’s your glue.
There are some people you will meet that are perfect “on paper” and with whom you can have good friendships with, but almost immediately you feel the sexual chemistry is just unexplainably “off”.
It could be a physical attribute that bothers you (usually this is what bad chemistry is linked to since everything starts with the visual). It may be a large hooked nose or ugly feet- something that would have been a deal-breaker for you should they not have been so otherwise “perfect”.
Long-lasting relationships usually have explosive chemistry almost immediately. Eventually, whatever bothers you about a person initially, will not only remain, but it will grow in the shadows of the compromise that you silently made, and you will eventually take it out in your mate because unbeknownst to them, you subconsciously “shorted” yourself.
Dating someone with whom the sex is “only mediocre” is asking for a heartbreak. It’s better to be alone and ready for your one true love than let your one true love pass you by because you settled for the wrong choice. Take your time. Don’t settle. Life is meant to be enjoyed!
I agree with you 100% that sex is the glue when all else is failing. It is the one thing that can be constant whether fighting or getting along. If this part of the relationship is missing there is no crutch to rely on. Great article!